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On retreat

Posted on 20 August, 2016 at 14:55


My dear sweet husband, Mr Vicar has come to take me home after my week long clergy retreat, which was so awesome and wonderful all at the same time:)


He settles down after lunch. As he looks down at his computer, he's not paying attention though he claims he is, pointing to his head, he says 'it's all in here I'm taking it all in.'

I say 'I'm going to interview you'

he pays no attention to me


So Mr Vicar how are you?


I'm very well thank you,


he smiles not looking up from his computer, but I know that he's paying attention because his dimples are cutting deep into his cheeks as he grins to himself


He looks up concerned now bursts out loud, laughing and says 'oh dear,' now he realises that I'm actually interviewing him


How's your week been?


It's been good been busy but it's gone well


Have you missed me?


Yes I've missed you, I've missed you every day


Oh how romantic


I was jealous of you having the week here in the sunshine


Well it was very peaceful here


It's always peaceful here I can't believe how quiet it is


All I could hear was the odd bird singing, my mind is now clear and very refreshed


That's good, that's what you needed, you have to get away, I need it too.


Do you remember when we went on that couples retreat,


My lap is wobbling too much through laughter, I can't type


Couples retreat that wasn't a couples retreat, he shouts! Retreat that wasn't a retreat that was weird the people were weird the place was weird, I thought we were going to a convent, but ended up there instead. I need a cup of coffee. he says 


So would you go on a couples retreat again, I ask


Not there, I remember sitting at the bottom of the garden trying to hide from everybody, I remember meal times with an interesting group of people. He tweets his two fingers in the air making quotation marks.


He gets up to make a cup of coffee.


My husband is a coffee drinker


How's your sunburn


It's alright now actually, it took a few days but now it's back to normal again,


I start to laugh again my iPad giggling on my lap as I write this


I feel guilty, that you got sunburnt as I suggested the restaurant, I thought to make it up to you I thought I'd book us on a river cruise lunch


It was nice though, he consoles me 


I know, but you got burnt and it was my idea


That sounds nice, he blows me a kiss, where?


I grin....I haven't found a nice one yet, I'm looking for a nice one....Those biscuits smell strong


That's strange, (I can tell he's considering all the possibilities....don't vampires have a sharp sense of smell don't blame me I haven't spoken to anybody for a very long time!)


My very attentive husband gets the tea and his coffee quintessentially British thing to do. He nestles back in his chair and waits for his coffee to brew

Are you still interviewing me? he enquires 


He looks down at his kindle,

I'm very impressed you've embraced the technology. His deep blue eyes the colour of his shirt twinkle as he double raises his eyebrows at me

Are you flirting with me Mr Vicar

Maybe he grins

I grin back

Nicola Adams won another Gold medal he says glancing back down at his kindle

Wow that's so good. I don't think I've watched boxing since Mohammad Ali, but I'll watch it on iplayer.


I don't think it was a couples retreat, he blurts out,  He does that you just have to connect the dots and remember where you last left off!

He starts me off laughing again, eventually I manage to speak 'why?'

Because it wasn't just for couples

How do you know?

They didn't look like couples....there were some couples

I remember some people saying they had gone back year after year

What was it about it that made it a retreat?, it was just a house where you were forced to share meals....that's not funny...I'm going to google them to see if we can book there again, I know you enjoyed it really

Well a retreat is supposed to somewhere that's quiet and a place to be spiritually refreshed

Well it would have been if it wasn't for all that noise he says....I've just looked up a review from someone who says a place of rest and spiritual refreshment' .....he groans and huffs

For someone who groans he looks pretty amazing

Ahh they're doing a silent retreat week at the moment

Which makes me laugh even more......Would you like to go on a silent retreat?

I might do, how long do they last

I burst into laughter can be as long or as short as you want them to be

I think I'd be good on a silent retreat

ahh! Do you think I'd be good on a silent retreat, expecting him to say no he surprises me 

I think you probably would, because you're quite reflective

Do you think so?......Well I haven't spoken to anyone for a week

Has that felt weard?

No, well when you think about it, you're having conversations with God, so you're not really in total quite

It's different though

Yes, it's special, because you don't have to rush off somewhere

I think it would be good if I had something to read...but then you're not supposed to have distractions

Yes, you're supposed to commune with God, Paula Gooder says the meaning is in the waiting, so even when you're not doing something you can be actively not doing something


Anyway I never did get to ask you what your favourite colour is


cars red, clothes blue, everything else green

To match you're deep Caribbean blue eyes, I flirt with him

What does green match? he says in a deep husky voice

So why did you get a black car then.....(I start laughing again)......I don't think that I know anyone who has three favourite colours,

I think that's allowed

According to who's rules?

My rules, his voice deepens again

I clear my throat.     What's it like being Mr Vicar?

I think it's a lot easier than being a woman, because there's not a defined role or any expectations, I like being Mr Vicar because I love being married to you

Good answer, we'll have to explore this more deeply next time

You sure? He double raises his eyebrows again.


It's a beautiful sunset here and I'm going to just indulge in one last evening of peacefulness with my husband Mr Vicar.8)







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